Out of the Blue

What do you do when you get a text out of the blue from an old girlfriend? What does it mean? What do they want? All these questions were running through my head today when it happened.

Since the break up I have not seen or heard from her and that was two years ago. It was one of those how are you? Text messages. Now if I don’t reply it’s a bit mean but if I do reply it may get her hopes up that I might want to go back out with her when I really don’t. Is she still single? If I tell her I’m single will she start coming on to me.

The reason I ended it in the first place was because she was more in to me than I was of her and I always find those relationships unfair. It is too easy to lead someone on or take advantage of the situation if the other person is more in to you than you are of them but it will only end in heartbreak for the other person. If in a relationship one person is more to the other person then its not going to work, a relationship has to be about mutual feelings.

If I met her again I don’t think I would suddenly fall more in love with her than I did the first time and I wouldn’t want to get her hopes up as that would be cruel. Now I know that I am single and desperately looking for love but that doesn’t mean I am going to settle for a girl or a relationship where I know I’m just settling and not really experiencing love to the full.

So although it is very mean I think the best thing in the long run for both of us is to not text back. Even if she thinks bad of me for not texting back or if her only motive was to be friends, I don’t to run the risk.

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Jealousy when you are single

Jealousy in relationships is quite common but it is also very common in single people. It’s like when your friends have a girlfriend or a boyfriend and you don’t, you feel happy for your friend but at the same time you are jealous that you don’t have a girlfriend or a boyfriend. You think why have they got someone and not me?

It is also hard when you are single and you really love someone but that person already has a partner. Even though that person loves there partner and that they don’t know that you love them you feel jealous of that persons other half. You think to yourself why are they going out with that person? And you think you would be much better for them.

I’ve been there before and it is such a hard place to be. You have all these unreasonable feelings of jealousy that you can’t tell anyone else about and with no way of stopping feeling like that. You just have to keep believing that your time will come and that if it is meant to be it will work out. Instead of spending time being jealous of your friends who have partners invest time in trying to find a partner of your own.

It’s hard to stop feeling jealous of someone that is going out with the person you think is the love of your life but you have to try. Try being happy that the person you love is happy and go out and see if there somebody else out there which you feel the same about as I believe on most occasions that there is more than one girl out there that could be your ideal partner.

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What Your Other Half Should Be

After my last post about settling I thought I would post about what you should see in your other half and what life with them should be like.

If you have truly found the one I believe this is how you should feel:

When you pick up your phone to see it is them calling you should have butterflies.

When you are walking down the street holding their hand you should feel like you are walking on air.

Every time you see them you should feel like you did the first time you laid eyes on them.

You should have to pinch yourself everyday just to believe that you get to share your life with that person.

If you don’t feel these things then it isn’t worth it to me. Love is something that should be enjoyed to its maximum, it is not worth investing the emotional energy in love if it doesn’t make you feel like this. Everyone deserves to and should experience in this in a relationship. If you feel these ways about your partner and they feel they same about you, you should have the most amazing relationship.

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