The more I see the less I like

Sometimes you can love someone from afar but then when you get to spend time with them your feelings change for them. Their beauty doesn’t change and you are still attracted to them but by spending time in each others company you start to think that it wouldn’t work and in turn your feelings change.

This can be a good or bad thing depending on how you look at it. You may think well I am glad I got to know them first before asking them out and that you have saved yourself from getting in a relationship with someone you don’t actually like in that way but on the other hand you may think to yourself that you should have asked her out before you got to know so at least you would have gone out with them.

If the girl doesn’t know you are interested in them and you create a situation where you are around each other a lot like a work colleague, classmate etc. you can find out what the person is like. Sometimes this takes time but the more the person becomes at ease with you the more you will find out about them. Also if you spend enough time with them you will find the true person as if they are putting on a façade they can’t keep that up all the time.

In this process sometimes you will realise you aren’t in love with the person any more or it may just happen organically without you realising. Remember just because you are attracted physically to someone it doesn’t always mean you will be attracted to their personality.

The Cruellest Things in Love

In love you can’t help who your heart falls in love with. You know when you first see that girl in the hallway at school, on the bus to work or that new girl who has just started working in your office. You don’t know them, you don’t know their name you haven’t even said hi, you don’t even know if they have noticed you but still unexplainably you love them. It’s like there is no other female in the world and it’s her you want to be with and nobody else. Your mind starts working at a million miles an hour picturing what you would be like together and before you even know it you are thinking about kids and marriage in your head.

The cruel fact of life however is that you can’t make that person love you back. How much you love this person makes no difference, regardless if you love them a bit or a lot it won’t make them love you back. If they don’t love you back you can’t then just turn off your feelings for them and your wasted heart will keep loving them. You can keep trying to work on them and see if one day they will love you but this can be a battle that you won’t win or if you do get them to start a relationship with you it may not be because they love you like you love them.

If only life were that simple that whoever you fell in love with would love you back. In films and stories the media try and convince you that an ordinary person can win the love of the most amazingly beautiful person in the world but unfortunately real life isn’t always like that. Sometimes you can eventually move on over time and get the person you love out of your head but this can be a long road and for some they may never be able to do it.

The big problem comes when you convince yourself that the person you have your heart on does love you or could love you when that person has done nothing to suggest that. When you read too much in to things that they have done or said. There are some cruel people who if they know that they love you will string you along and make you believe that they love you but luckily in life these are the minority.

The key thing to remember is to not rush in to things and let your mind get away from you which is easier said than done I know but if you can it will save you some pain and heartache later. Although at the moment it may feel like this person was the only one, somewhere down the line there will be others.

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