The more I see the less I like

Sometimes you can love someone from afar but then when you get to spend time with them your feelings change for them. Their beauty doesn’t change and you are still attracted to them but by spending time in each others company you start to think that it wouldn’t work and in turn your feelings change.

This can be a good or bad thing depending on how you look at it. You may think well I am glad I got to know them first before asking them out and that you have saved yourself from getting in a relationship with someone you don’t actually like in that way but on the other hand you may think to yourself that you should have asked her out before you got to know so at least you would have gone out with them.

If the girl doesn’t know you are interested in them and you create a situation where you are around each other a lot like a work colleague, classmate etc. you can find out what the person is like. Sometimes this takes time but the more the person becomes at ease with you the more you will find out about them. Also if you spend enough time with them you will find the true person as if they are putting on a façade they can’t keep that up all the time.

In this process sometimes you will realise you aren’t in love with the person any more or it may just happen organically without you realising. Remember just because you are attracted physically to someone it doesn’t always mean you will be attracted to their personality.

Reading the Signs

One of the hardest things to do is to read the signs that someone may be in to you or not. This can be especially hard if you really like the person as your love for them can easily cloud your judgement. If this is the case you may read too much in to things or see things that aren’t actually there.

There are so many books and internet sites on reading the signs that someone of the opposite sex may be interested in you but it my experience I don’t think any of them actually help you. What some people think is being flirty may just be someone trying to be friendly and vice versa. Not everyone is the same!

I think boys in general are terrible at thinking a girl is interested in them when they actually aren’t and opposite side I think girls sometimes read too much in to what a boy does.

You get two breeds of people when it comes to flirting. One breed are people that like attention and flirt with members of the opposite sex without actually liking them. The other is the breed that people think are flirting when they aren’t intending to and would be mortified if anybody thought that they were.

I think it is very easy to get carried away trying to read the signs that someone is interested in you. The best piece of advice is to not rush in when you think someone is giving you the signs but to actually hold fire and see if anything else happens or if that isn’t happening to talk to the person. I think you can work out a lot more from conversation than you can trying to guess the signs that someone is in to you.

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